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Journey to the Roadhouse of the Dead [Nov. 18th, 2009|03:04 pm]
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It was a clear, warm night when I made my first journey to the Roadhouse of the Dead. I stated my intention, and then I prayed. I said my usual prayers to my allies, prayed for a safe and meaningful experience, and prayed to be open to Mystery. Then I cast a circle and entered a trance by singing softly.

Freyr joined me immediately, and he looked impatient. He was wearing a dark black suit, which is unusual as he typically clothing that expresses the delight he has in his body. His long golden hair was in a braid--also unusual. Squat was there as well, wearing a large black dress with a red collar. I don't think I've ever seen her in anything other than jeans. Freyr took my hand and said, "We've been waiting. Let's go--there isn't much time."

Freyr led me outside to his car--the usual golden-yellow Mustang that I am familiar with. Sitting in it, feeling it purr underneath me as Freyr navigated the winding country roads to the Roadhouse, I was aware how much this car is alive, and of how much of the way the Mysterious Ones present themselves to me has to do with how I am able to see them. Suddenly, something occurred to me and I asked, "Is this car Gullinbursti?" Freyr didn't respond. Squat laughed from the front seat. I again wondered how much of the lore around the Mysterious Ones is also colored by the lenses of the people who originally received it.

We approached the Roadhouse, and I was amazed at the sheer number of beings that were gathering. There were schools of fish approaching from the sky, swimming through the air like water. There were flocks of birds, herds of animals, and other people and Mysterious Ones arriving by sea, by water, and by land. Freyr drove up to the front, and a valet took the car as we stepped out. Ancestors of mine emerged from the Roadhouse to welcome me, and led me into a great hall with a bar in the center of it. We entered the hall, and it was packed to over-flowing.

Freyr was a gracious host, and he introduced me to some of the other Mysterious Ones and ancestors. We stopped at the bar, and he introduced me to the bartender, whose name I immediately forgot. He handed me a martini glass and I thanked him. I am always nervous about eating or drinking anything in the other worlds, so I just carried it around with me. Freyr must have noticed, but he didn't say anything.

I looked around--the bar was in the center of a huge hall, and I could see crowds of beings around me. I saw people that I know from Reclaiming (Donald and Mark other Minnesota witches), people that I know from the Heathen and Northern Tradition worlds, and people that I feel like I should know on some level. I saw birds flying in circles above me, and fish floating in circles above them. Ghosts and spirits and other beings were weaving in and among the dancers--all making a giant counter-clockwise circular pattern.

The music of the Roadhouse is not something I can describe easily. At first it seemed like heavy industrial rock, but made of long-held notes, with the occasional percussive booms. I couldn't quite put my finger on what kind of instrument it was. Later, watching an episode of QI, I discovered what it was: The music was natural sounds, like the sound of sand dunes and the sound of earth from space, arranged to sound like "music." (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0XF6kGDLcVE, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Og_HjkCvro, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5cpY5qZLbMM&feature=related.)

I watched the enormous, strange, circular dance for a while, and then I left the main room and walked through some of the smaller salons. I made my way from one salon to another. I saw my maternal grandmother in one of them, playing Chopin on the piano. It brought a tear to my eye. She said, "We all have to play now. We all are creating the music for the dance." We talked about music for a period. Each salon had beings in it, and each salon was different. Some were very strange. There were people who looked like they were from 1800 Russia debating in a language I did not understand in one salon; in another salon there were people from different historical periods scrying with Mysterious Ones.

I spent some time with Idunna, with whom I've become somewhat close over the past few months. She had dirt under her nails, as always. She was sitting in a small salon populated with other Vanir--Heimdall, Freya, Njord. I sat down with them, and with many other people. The room was decorated in dark colors, and I noticed after a few minutes that none of the MOs were wearing gold, which is odd for a group of Vanir. I mentioned it, and they just nodded.

I didn't talk much, but some of the other humans did. (I'm so curious as to who these other friends of the Vanir are.) Topics ranged from light-hearted joking to more serious discussions. And finally, the conversation turned to the current ecological and social crises. "The world is always ending," said Njord. Freya looked at her father and shook her head. We (us humans) had the sense that something is going on, but the MOs were not forthcoming.

I expected that I would dance at some point, but I never did. The opportunity never arose. Eventually, Freyr appeared out of the crowd, and took my hand. "It's time we got you home." I said that I had planned on staying for longer, but he told me that "those with mortal bodies cannot be here when the next part of the dance begins." As I walked out the door, I noticed others leaving, too. He led me to the car and I got in the passenger side. Squat and Freyr said good-bye, but did not get in the car. It was clear that they planned on staying longer. Freyr closed the door, and patted the car on the side, as one would pat a horse. The Mustang took off, and drove me home on the winding roads.

On the trip back, I thought about the experience. It felt a little anti-climatic after hearing about fabulous parties at the Roadhouse over the years. I don't remember getting home, just waking up the next morning.
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May you find peace, Shloma. [Nov. 11th, 2009|12:33 pm]
Jason and I were talking about Shloma Rosenberg (AKA Cyclone, AKA Clay Keck) last night. His sudden passing was a surprise to me--so much so that I didn't believe it at first. You see, there was this one time when everything thought that Sholoma had died, but he hadn't.

So yesterday, I called his father to get the straight story, and he confirmed that Shloma had passed. There are no arrangements. Donations can be made to Susan G. Komen. I have an address, if you want to send a card. Contact me if you want it.

What can be said about Shloma? He was a tall man, very tattooed, very pink, very opinionated, very smart. He had great taste in Indian food and make-up. His altar room was a thing of immense beauty. He was a fantastic story-teller.

He took his spirituality seriously. And that was no small task for someone with as many spiritual disciplines as Shloma had. He helped people, he treated his congregation like they were his family. He was a priest, in the truest sense of the word. I could see that, and we weren't even close. In that aspect, he was an example to be admired and imitated.

Today, I pray that he finds peace.
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Some updates... [Nov. 10th, 2009|02:29 pm]
1) I'm disapointed in paganism in general. I could go into specifics, but I think one of the main points is the sale of Diana's Grove. And, I don't want to talk about it. I'll process internally, thank you.

2) I have physical therapy and a chiropractor scheduled for next week. Let the healing commence. This past weekend I was having some difficulty walking. I kept thinking, "I'm going to need a cane. That's hot."

3) My office smells like the lavander-scented candle I'm burning. It's a good smell.

4) I have the evening off. No wrestling or working out, since I'm injured. So I can't engage in any of my usual activities. So I have lots of free time now. Sigh.
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Crap. [Nov. 6th, 2009|10:12 am]
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OK, this back pain thing is really starting to get to me.

I miss exercise. I miss working out. I miss wrestling. I don't want to have to sit on a heating pad all fucking day anymore. I'm very, very tired of being in pain.

It's amazing how quickly I started to feel a difference when I stopped working out. After about one day, I feel like crap. I want to say that the back pain is getting better, but I'm not sure that it is. Certainly, I'm not in as much pain as I was on Sunday, but that's not saying much. The past couple of days have been about the same. I'm deeply not happy about the whole thing.

Rage.
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Back pain [Nov. 3rd, 2009|08:50 am]
My lower back has been hurting, on and off, since about August. I had no idea what is causing it. I went to the doctor twice, and they are also befuddled. So, I would just take some pain killers, put heat on it, and go about my day.

But then, this past weekend, I hurt myself doing squats. (You see, the pain wasn't severe enough to keep me from exercise.)

So now, when people ask, "What did you do to your back?" I reply, "I was lifting pretty heavy." It still hurts the same as before, but I have a more manly explanation now. And that's what counts.
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UPG, and your mileage may vary. [Oct. 26th, 2009|02:56 pm]
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I asked Idunna about her parentage. She replied:

"We aren't corporeal, so we don't have to hold concern about our corpses--where they came from, who made them, and so on. Our genealogies are not like your genealogies. But you have to understand that we didn't come out of nowhere, so that's why we say that so-and-so is descended from whomever. Not that there isn't some truth in it, mind, but it's not a corporeal truth because we don't have corpses. For example, saying that Sleipnir is the child of Loki and Svadilfari, is a truth, but not a corporeal truth.

"We have talked about our lineage and where we came from because ancestors are important. We here in the North seem to recognize that more than some others, and sometimes we get a little carried away with the primacy of ancestry, and that has been tragic on both large and small scales.

"But remember this: When the Lore of which you speak mentions that so-and-so is mother to so-and-so, it's so that you can understand something of how we relate. And, it's a lesson on the importance of ancestry."

Happy Samhain, too.
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(no subject) [Oct. 26th, 2009|12:45 pm]
"Mensa Process is the only consulting firm in the world with exclusive access to the unrivaled brainpower of Mensa."

(From the website for Idea Aid.
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On with the show! [Oct. 23rd, 2009|08:20 am]
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I'm reading "Wyrdness" by Svartesol right now. It's a great book, but I just want to highlight one thing: She proposes (as have many others) that the Aesir came later to the North than did the Vanir (whom themselves probably came after the Jotnar). She refers to the retrofitting of certain myths to fit with an Aesir-centered world view as "The Odin and Thor Show." I laughed at that, because that's the kind of thing that geeks find funny.

Ha!
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(no subject) [Oct. 22nd, 2009|08:47 am]
My partner is reading "Fight Club" right now. We had a discussion last night, and I mentioned that I believe that "Fight Club" is sort of a telling of the "Charge of the Goddess." Throughout the book there is honor and humility, mirth and reverance, beauty and strength, power and compassion. Also, the whole "I have been with you since the beginning, and I am that which is obtained at the end of desire" mirrors the surprise "Tyler is the narrator" thing. And also, the whole, "If that which you seek you find not within yourself, you will never find it without," is kind of the moral of the book.

I'm just saying.
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All I need now is intellectual intercourse. [Oct. 19th, 2009|09:18 am]
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Any topic gets old and tired if you spend too much time looking at it. Study poetry, and suddenly, your favorite poems are just a combination of words and rhyme-schemes and rhythms, and not poetry at all. Study music, and you start hearing cadences and progressions, and that makes it harder to sing along.

So, five months into the two-year training for sex therapy certification from ASSECT (don't get me started on the whole issue of "Who the hell are you to certify me as a sex therapist, when I've been doing this work for 6 years already?"), and suddenly sex seems mechanical and kind of dull.

I'm sure that will change back at some point. But for today, sex is too much like homework.

(BTW, I need a new icon for these posts. I took that picture two years ago, and I'm a bit more muscular and toned now. Maybe I'll work on that.)
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Back. [Oct. 15th, 2009|09:39 am]
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I haven't posted here in over a month. And a lot has happened in my life, mostly family craziness and work craziness. I don't want to re-visit it.

I was making my way to work this morning and Idunna came and sat next to me. It was early, and I said, "Good morning, Idunna. You're up early." She just looked at me in a way that said, You get up early on a farm. We chatted about motivation, and I asked her why it is so hard for me to stay motivated on a project. She was helpful, but I don't think the Mysterious Ones are always great sources of advice on the topic of internal mental processes, since they seem to be different from us in some fundamental ways.

Anyway. I am going to try to recommit to this LJ. Let's see where this goes.
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Waiting for Fall [Sep. 3rd, 2009|08:24 am]
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Perhaps a better title for yesterday's post would have been "That which we resist." These days, I'm just writing stream-of-consciousness stuff in this journal, so I'm not putting a lot of thought into it. Upon reflection, I might go and change the title.

Anyway. In a few minutes I am going to go visit a client. The sun is coming up over the building next to mine, and the light is beginning to crawl across my wall. Today is going to be a beautiful day--sunny and clear, high in the mid 70s, with a nice breeze. Today would have been the perfect day to call in sick, sit on the couch at home, and read.

There is certain quality to the light that happens between September and December in Michigan that is just amazing. I am guessing that most northern latitudes probably have this. The autumn sun is warm and clear, flattering and kind. And, in Michigan, we frequently have clear fall days, where the sky is a perfect, uninterrupted deep blue. And once the trees start to change, and the world explodes into bright colors, it can be breathtaking. I really love fall in Michigan; it's one of the reasons that I want to continue to live here when so many people are leaving.

I actually want it to come a little faster. I can't wait for sweater weather, and apple picking, and Halloween. I'm a bit excited that we had a cool summer, because it began to feel like autumn in mid-August. Hopefully, this means that we will have a long and beautiful fall, and does not mean that it will snow in October.
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That which I resist [Sep. 2nd, 2009|02:51 pm]
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After wrestling last night I thought, "I wonder what kind of soap Jake uses. It smells really good on my skin." Of course, I mostly stank like sweat, but still, under everything else, I could smell the soap of my opponent.

This happens more than one would think. After rolling, I stand in front of the shower as it warms up, and I think, "Aaron switched shampoos," or "Ryan needs to use less hair product." It's one of the many reasons that I love wrestling, and a reminder that when I engage something in close combat, I take some of that thing onto myself--my wrestling opponent's sweat and personal care products, or a little of the anger from the Religious Right, or a little of the attitude from the person with whom I am debating health care reform.


(With apologies to Jake, Aaron and Ryan.)
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Thoughts right now... [Aug. 31st, 2009|11:30 am]
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This morning I visited someone who is in a crisis in his life--and not a crisis of perception or belief, but a real-true-honest-to-goodness crisis. There are times when I don't think that I can be any help at all, and this was one of those times. I basically just sat there while he cried.

Oh, I have all kinds of techniques, gleaned from the best and most well-meaning teachers: Help the person restructure his cognitions so that he can reduce his anxiety and improve his mood, says my cognitive training. Brainstorm some behaviors that can improve his mood, or at least distract him from the situation, says the behaviorist in me. Help him accept the situation, or help him stay mindful of what is happening, or encourage him to meditate. There is no shortage of voices telling me what to do.

But still, it seems like the most compassionate thing I can do is watch him cry. Occasionally, I offer some advice: "Remember to breathe. Inhale, exhale..." and "Take all the time you need."

(I used to say, "It's OK to cry," or "It's OK to express yourself." But that always felt way too much like a overly-touchy-feely kindergarten teacher. Then I tried, "Let it out," but that felt like something that you say to a grieving widow on a Lifetime Original Movie. So now I say, "Take your time," and "Just be with the feeling." Those seem to work with me.)

I also do the thing that therapists are not supposed to do: I reassure the client. And really, why the hell not? I'm told that it minimizes the experience of the here-and-now, or something. "Resist the urge to reassure," they say. Which, for some reason, reminds me of being told to resist slapping a choking person on the back. "Sure, it's folk wisdom," the Red Cross people told us in our health class back in high school, "But it's not effective." These days, the Red Cross has reversed their stance on this, and now encourages you to give five sharp "back blows" to people who are choking before trying the Heimlich Maneuver. Sometimes, conventional wisdom is best.

So I tell this man things that I know are true: "This situation is temporary." "You are doing your best with this situation, and I know that." "You have friends and family who love you." "I am here." And I sit in his living room, and he cries.

Before I leave, he is feeling better. He is smiling, and when I ask him to rate his hopelessness on a scale of one to ten, he rates it at a 7. Since it was a 9 when the session began, I feel somewhat vindicated. But mostly I feel like a failure, because I wasn't enough to remove his fears. Of course this is ludicrous, and I know that, and somewhere inside I am five-years-old and dressed in a red cape that my mother sewed, and I still want to be Superman.

Back here, in my office, I looked for this poem, which I wrote a few years back. I'm not a great poet, and I write to express myself more than anything else. And here it is, testament that I have felt this way before, and a reminder that I will feel it again. So I tell myself, "This is temporary." "I am doing my best with this situation, and I know that." "I have family and friends who love me." "I am here."
Water

The most frightening times are
when I have nothing left to give.
When you are a tempest, thundering down
saline droplets. I tremble beside you,
immersed in the fear that I could
be washed away in your flood. Your
abundance mocks me; my blood and
my sweat are spent, and I am
as dried-up and as useless as
the dwindling memory of last year's rains.
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Eating on the road [Aug. 29th, 2009|11:00 pm]
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Jay and I went to my cousin's wedding in Houghton Lake, Michigan, today. It took us about 3 hours to drive up here, through the rain. Michigan is a lovely state, regardless of what anyone may think or expect. It is rolling, green, and lush with trees.

The drive was enjoyable, with only a couple of brief construction delays. The sky was overcast and rainy, and it seemed like autumn has come early this year. We mentioned this a couple of times, looking at the trees and noticing that some of them are beginning to change color already. Jay and I have both heard that it is the shortening of the days that triggers the change in colors, but I think that temperature must have something to do with it as well. How else to explain that trees near a lake change later than trees that are farther inland?

Anyway, we stopped for a late lunch at a little place called "The Lumberjack," on a whim. Jay said, "Let's get some local color." As it happens, the restaurant was mostly there for tourists. The decor was designed to evoke the wilds of northern lower Michigan, and the lumbering times in the mid-and-late-1800s. There were black and white photos of lumberjacks and lumber camps. On the wall was a stuffed moose head. (Did you know that moose attack more people each year than bears and wolves combined?)

There was a large group of tourists at the table next to us, speaking in a language that I am guessing to be Dutch. I am not good at identifying languages, and I am even worse at differentiating Dutch and German and Swedish and Danish. They sound rounded and throaty at the same time, in my ears. They were all wearing clothing with obvious trademarks: Nike, Nautica, Polo. It is very likely that they had been to the outlet mall that was not more than 100 feet from the restaurant. I thought how strange these people must think that the United States is. I remember my trip to Holland, which appeared to me to be a tiny country, overfilled with people who seem to live on top of one another. In Holland, where square footage is a premium and houses were extremely narrow, the staircases were more like stepladders, and there just didn't seem to be enough land to go around. As a contrast, this restaurant seemed to proclaim, "We have so much wilderness that we commodify it. We kill it, stuff it, and eat under it's disembodied head. You see this animal? It was once larger than your car. We celebrate cutting down our trees, here in this enormous land. Come, eat under a collection of dead things and cover yourself in inexpensive designer name brands!"

Jay ordered the beef stew, and the menu made some noises about it being "authentic lumberjack food." I thought to myself, Authentic lumberjack food is probably bacon fat mixed with corn meal and cooked over coals, or some such. I abandoned the search for authenticity, and had the chicken sandwich, and it was fantastic.
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Knowing is half the battle! [Aug. 12th, 2009|08:06 am]
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I'm just now discovering these G.I. Joe Parodies. These are probably not as funny if you didn't grow up watching GI Joe and it's lame "And knowing is half the battle" moral-of-the-story messages.

Go to YouTube and search for "G.I. Joe Parody." I'm sharing my favorites here.





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Fail! [Aug. 11th, 2009|01:02 pm]
I'm posting a link to this editorial in Investor's Business Daily, on the subject of "Why Government Health Care Will End the World as We Know It," or something.

The money shot in this piece is this: "People such as scientist Stephen Hawking wouldn't have a chance in the U.K., where the National Health Service would say the life of this brilliant man, because of his physical handicaps, is essentially worthless."

Of course, Stephen Hawking is British, and always has been, and somehow has managed to get medical care.
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Update [Aug. 11th, 2009|08:15 am]
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I've really been neglecting my LiveJournal, so I wanted to post a quick update.

Jay and I had a great party on Saturday night, to celebrate 11 years together. We had a ton of food and wine. I baked strawberry-rhubarb and blueberry pies. The strawberry-rhubarb pie was much praised by the guests; if I do admit it myself, I make a fantastic rhubarb pie. Sunday, we mostly just sat around and recovered.

Jay is in Chicago for much of this week, and so I am lonely at home. The cats and I are making keeping each other company.

I have a major backache, and have for a few days now. I'm starting to get worried, as it is getting worse and not getting better. Grrr...

That's all.
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Two Truths and a Lie: The Reveal [Aug. 6th, 2009|08:20 am]
Not a lot of people commented, so I'll assume it's because you all had no idea, and not that no one reads my journal.

If you want to go to the previous entry and guess first, feel free.

Which of these is the lie?

1. I had meningitis as a child, and I almost died.

2. Outside of a sport or a martial art, I've never been in a real fight in my life.

3. My mother named me "Matthew" after my great-grandfather.


Answer under the cut )
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Two Truths and a Lie [Aug. 5th, 2009|03:17 pm]
Ever play "Two Truths and a Lie?"

(I ganked this from [info]artemis112.)

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If you want to play, post two truths and one lie in random order. Then see if folks can guess which is the false story via the comments section.


1. I had meningitis as a child, and I almost died.

2. Outside of a sport or a martial art, I've never been in a real fight in my life.

3. My mother named me "Matthew" after my great-grandfather.
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